Tuesday, December 08, 2015
I think having very different communication styles can really cause friction in any relationship. Read some article about communication styles and it surprised me that I communicate very indirectly! I guess it explains why I get misunderstood very often. And also that I have an affiliative style which tends to take things personally when faced with direct challenges and open disagreements. This is why I often am very put off my the dominating/ power-seeking/ competitive style of communication. I can get very competitive, but that's usually in a partially joking spirit, and that's different from competitiveness which leads to hostility.
I think this helps me sort out a bit of the mess in my head, even though it doesn't really provide a solution to any problem at all. it makes me feel better to know the reason why there is conflict and maybe one day i can be more understanding and forgiving. Because none of these communication styles are wrong in themselves... it is really just "a style".
I wonder what the world would be like if we all just got along
There would be more happy songs
We'd be dancing all day long
I wonder if you'd talk to me would you see a better man?
I sure hope that's what you'd do
Cause I would see a better you
avoid the aliens;
11:42 AM
