Saturday, January 16, 2016
I'm learning more and more not to let people's opinions of me affect me being me!
http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/06/taming-mammoth-let-peoples-opinions-run-life.html
I realized that I am very scared of many things in life. embarrassment is one big one, acceptance, awkwardness, failure, and the list goes on... But many of these fears are irrational. Some of the lies that we tell ourselves are:
- Everyone is talking about me and my life and just think how much everyone will be talking about it if I do this risky or weird thing.
- If I try really hard, I can please everyone
- Being disapproved of or looked down upon or shit-talked about has real consequences in my life
- Really judgy people matter
- I'm a bad person if I disappoint or offend the person/people who love me and have invested so much in me
I realized that all these lies are things that I keep telling myself, which makes me so fearful to be myself! "Be Yourself" is so easy to say, but very difficult to live out (at least for me). I need to dispel all those "what ifs" in my head, because 99% of the time, they don't happen, and even if they do, there is no lasting consequences that would really matter in the light of eternity.
I have to stop being so scared about what people think of me, because there will always be people who have something against you no matter what you do. Look at Lee Hsien Loong... Obama... or Jesus for that matter! But on the other side of the coin, there will always be people who will love you for who you are. Sincerity is also a plus, at least in my book.
so I need to say: So what if i'm boring/ too serious/ too preachy/ weird/ not the best conversationalist/ a failure in certain areas/ never find someone to love or be loved by/ love someone more than they love me/ not the best in what I do but do it anyway? I do not need to be governed by the culturally acceptable standard. I'm free to be me! (:
Thank You for teaching me this through this secular article! Very very true!
avoid the aliens;
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