Haven't posted a marriage article in a while, so I shall share one now hehe (:

http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/a-dangerous-fairytale-for-future-wives

This was just a quote from the article which really struck me!

"Satan wants us to think marriage is about fulfilling our unmet needs and desires, living the dream sold in romance novels, checking off a box, or finally getting our lives together. He's slowly, gently rocking up into an apathetic sleep, so that we'll settle for less. We must wake up and see how our unrealistic expectations set the bar way too low. Our desires are too small when we place ultimate hope in our husband or marriage itself. Our expectations should rise as God uses our unmet expectations - and the resulting disappointment and hurt - to drive us to himself. Marriage is the road that brings us to the greater destination: God himself."

To think i've been fooled by satan all this while! i often feel like marriage will be the solution to my problems/ insecurities, but its really not meant to fulfill my unmet needs and desires. I guess those who are married can attest to this, but i wish i really truly believed it! 

sometimes i find myself thinking that once i get married, i would have got things figured out. like i see more and more of my friends getting married, and i think that "they've made it". but come to think of it, i've seen couples who are struggling, because it is just 2 broken people coming together. it sometimes makes an even bigger mess of things. i guess i don't think about the "negative" cases often because i idealize marriage. but deep down, i know that i will be disappointed if i keep having unrealistic expectations. 

praying for God to show me that He is all i need, and that i need not find my worth in my marital status!